Whether or not you should get a divorce is a decision that needs to be considered seriously. Before you speak with a divorce lawyer, you should probably start by asking yourself these 7 questions and by discussing your answers with your spouse.
1. Do I still have feelings for my spouse?
If you still have feelings for your spouse, but you simply feel like you have too many problems to be able to solve them, you should try to work on your relationship before getting a divorce. However, if you have no feelings or affection for your partner, it might be best to go your separate ways.
2. Is my desire to get a divorce based on an emotional reaction?
If you are considering a divorce at a time where you are overwhelmed with emotions, both negative and positive, you might not be able to make a thoughtful decision. You have to make sure your decision to seek the advice of a divorce lawyer is not based on an emotional reaction.
3. Am I frustrated or angry at my spouse?
If you are simply angry at your spouse, or frustrated about your current situation, threatening to get a divorce will not solve any of your problems. If you don’t really want a divorce, working on your relationship through couples therapy is a much better idea.
4. What is my motivation for getting a divorce?
You need to make sure you want a divorce for the right reasons. Threatening your spouse with a divorce is not helpful in any way, but neither is hoping that your partner will realize what they have lost after the divorce. Divorce is used to end a marriage, not to try to strengthen it.
5. Have I thought about the negative consequences of a divorce?
If there is nothing that can be done to save your relationship, a divorce will put an end to it. However, it can also bring some negative consequences, and you will have to be ready to face them. Think about what a divorce will mean for you, your spouse, your children and your family.
6. Is it the right time to divorce?
A divorce can have negative consequences on your financial situation. If you have been staying at home for years while your partner was working, right now might not be the right time to get a divorce. Don’t hesitate to ask a divorce lawyer whether or not you would be able to get spousal support if you got a divorce.
7. Will I be able to count on my ex for child support?
If you have children and you want to get custody of them, you need to ask yourself if you will be able to count on your ex for child support if you need it. If you know that it will not be possible for you to get child or spousal support, you should turn to a divorce lawyer for advice